Some people say that love teaches people to grow.
When I was young, I always thought that love is a very simple thing, holding hands, hugging, as if it can be a lifetime.
Until the years grow older, experienced many trials and tribulations, only to find that the original feelings are far more complex than they imagined.
It is always easy to love each other, but it is really too difficult to get along. There are many stories of love at first sight, but not every pair can go to the end.
Long-lasting love, must be a continuous process of integration, two people only each heart, mutual tolerance, feelings can be steady development.
Gender life, women should pay attention to these three aspects of more effort, the more you are “hard”, the more men love you!
01
Love to pay enough to force
Feelings of the matter, although the pay is not necessarily a return, but if you are unwilling to pay since the beginning, then it is impossible to fix the right result.
Love, is a very serious thing, not ready enough psychological preparation, do not easily start, and once started, please be sure to seriously love.
There are always people like to hold a playful attitude to treat a relationship, you think you do not have to pay a sincere, is to take advantage of, but in fact, you have lost, perhaps more than anyone else, because that is your youth, time, and even personal reputation.
Seriously love each other, will always find a real belong to their other half, they will set up a new family, happy and happy to live the rest of their lives.
And those who love casually people, can never have a stable family, they are like a leaf of duckweed, always in different lovers, drifting around.
When you love, please push a little harder, as long as you find the right person, then all your efforts, he will be able to feel.
And he, will definitely use greater sincerity, more love, to return your pay.
02
Love yourself to do your best
Women, to have the determination to love a person, but also to have the ability to love themselves.
Many women become especially oblivious after falling into a relationship.
They will become everything centered on the man, no matter what they encounter, they will first consider for the man, but never care about themselves.
In order to love the man, some women can give up their own work, give up their friends, give up their own hobbies, wholeheartedly surrounded by men, and even become a mom, are not afraid.
But such a total disregard for their own oblivious to pay, really will be replaced by a hundred percent of the love of men?
Not really, and even some men, on the contrary, will be bored day after day.
She will feel that you can not make money, not independent enough, no thought, no temperament, over time, perhaps really treat you as a free nanny.
Women want men to love themselves more, they must learn to self-esteem and self-love in the relationship.
You are never his appendage, you have to have independent thinking, personal preferences, have their own circle of friends, and most importantly, to have the ability to support themselves.
The more you are on your own, the more you can have outstanding personal ability and temperament, and he will not dare to despise you, on the contrary, will only be full of more adoration for you.
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To unreasonable things to force to refuse
Recently there is a popular word, called “refusal business”, as the name suggests, is the ability to refuse others.
“Refusal quotient” high people, very clear about their own actually have ‘a few pounds and two’, encounter those who can not do or do not want to do things, they will be very decisive refusal.
The “refusal quotient” is not high people, is the life of those typical good old boy, embarrassed to refuse, for fear that others are not happy, reluctantly agreed to, but basically can not get what a good ending.
If you don’t get things done, he will blame you; if you get things done, he will find more things for you.
In the gender relationship, there are a lot of women, has been playing such a good old man.
They never know how to refuse, as long as the man opens his mouth, even if they know that it is unreasonable, or will silently go to bear. And the result of such a submissive, in exchange for only the man more and more do not know how to cherish.
Love, is as tolerant as possible, rather than brainless obedience, the more you obey everything, the more he will not take you seriously.
Women must have their own personality and temperament, encounter unreasonable things, we must decisively reject, only you are tough enough, he will really put you in the heart.
The more you love a person, the more you have to grasp the balance, the relaxation of the time to relax, the force of the time to force.
Only pinch a good measure, you can really do in the world of feelings of ease.
